Ever since the television adaptation of Thirteen Reasons Why became available on Netflix, I’ve had to answer the question: “why haven’t you watched it yet?” The controversial show, based on a novel of the same name by Jay Asher, has drawn a lot of attention, both positive and negative, and I’ve had to justify my procrastinated watching by saying that I haven’t had time yet. Well, that’s not entirely true: I have had the time, I just haven’t had the motive.
After months and months of pushing it off, I’ve come to terms with the idea that I just don’t want to watch it… and that’s okay. Here are my eight reasons why I’m not going to watch “Thirteen Reasons Why:”
1. The book is probably better. I will likely never have the evidence to support this claim, but I think that Thirteen Reasons Why is a story meant to be read, not watched. When reading about Hannah’s tragic story and the fallout that impacts Clay, you fill in the gaps between the major plot points and character traits to weave a story that is close to home and close to the heart. That’s what makes it such a jarring, deeply personal read. When it’s played out on a screen, I think you lose that individualization; it becomes less about your relationship with the story and more about the drama.
2. I’m busy. I work, I write, I exercise, I read, I bake chocolate chip cookies (which I do too often). I’ve got stuff on my plate and I only have room in my schedule for one addictive television show at the moment. I’m in a committed relationship with “Jane the Virgin” and she gets irritated when I watch other shows. I just don’t have the time to sit down and watch an entire season in one day at the moment.
3. It made me paranoid. After reading 13 Reasons Why, I walked around for days wondering who around me was going through a tough time, but not in the sensitive, be-nice-to-everyone way. I was worried that if I misspoke or accidentally did something wrong, I could be someone’s reason why. Rather than worrying that I might upset someone, I want to focus on what I can do to be a good person and a welcoming friend.
4. The book worsened my anxiety. I’ve been a worrier all my life; my first response to a situation is to see the worst possible outcome (which is fabulous when writing plot twists, but not so fabulous when a friend makes a snide comment). Second semester of senior year, the pressure of college decisions, a heinous amount of homework, the approaching AP exams, early morning swim practices before school, dance rehearsal in the afternoon, and friendship drama sent me into a private spiral. While I put on a brave face, I would come home after sixteen-hour days and disintegrate. I’ve since improved drastically, but putting images of suicide into my conscious stirred up some of that dust. As important as it is to discuss these topics, I don’t want or need to be encountering a story involving unhealthy actions and mindsets. I need to focus on working through my anxiety and a huge part of that is reading and watching things that bring joy to my life.
5. I’ve already read all the spoilers. Sorry, screenwriters: your plot twists have no power over me. Between listening to friends rant about the show and reading the spoilers myself, I know all about the twisted relationships and who Hannah Baker really blames for her death. What’s the point of watching if I already know what happens?
6. I wasn’t terribly fond of Hannah’s narrative voice. Maybe it’s just me, but I didn’t like how vindictive she sounded in the book. I thought it was very hypocritical in that taking her life was her own choice. Like I said: maybe it’s just me, but I’m not sure I could handle an entire season of Hannah and the way she blames without a sense of consequence.
7. I’m squeamish. I’ve since improved my tolerance for blood after watching the first several seasons of “Grey’s Anatomy,” but I just can’t stomach self-harm. I understand that images like that are included in the plot to bring attention to them and to start a conversation, but I don’t think I could handle it.
8. I don’t need to be “trendy.” I’ve never been one to jump on the bandwagon and I will stand firm in this opinion as I have before. I won’t watch a show that I don’t really want to watch just because everyone and their cousins are watching it. I like fitting in, but not that bad.
Have you watched or read Thirteen Reasons Why? What did you think?
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20 thoughts on “Eight Reasons Why Annie Isn’t Watching “Thirteen Reasons Why””
Yes, you are right, the series/book seems to be terribly triggering. I will probably not watch it either.
I haven’t seen the series yet and one of my reasons is I heard there was a lot of blood involved and it was very graphic and I honestly do not like seeing blood. Or sharp things puncturing the skin. I don’t even like it when I see needles or get blood samples etc.
Yeah, I totally get you there! I have to lie down and look away if I get a shot 😷
All of these reasons are accurate. And it’s actually more intimidating and heart racing than the book. Actors are not great. Book is sooo much better!
The book was good and I am curious about the show, although I think it is a book that would be very hard and strange to put into TV format and I am worried they would ruin it. I probably will not watch it, at least not any time soon. (Btw it made me paranoid too)
I feel the same way! I’m not going to watch 13 reasons (or read the book for that matter) because I’m a parent, and I always think the worst things, so I just don’t need that kind of anxiety in my life 🙂
I’ve not got around to the series yet, and like you I’ve been making excuses, but I must say a lot of my reasons for not fancying it are the same
I haven’t read this book or seen the movie and I’m glad after reading your article here. I can’t comment on the article topic but I’d like to support your reasoning for not watching the movie. I think your best reason was the last one – about being true to yourself as an individual. Peer pressure for any age group is a stressor. Know thyself and love yourself enough to act accordingly. Then, you are equipped to love others. Good to meet you!
Thanks for your thoughts! Nice to meet you too 🙂
Interesting argument, Annie. Although I LOVED 13 reasons why, I understand your viewpoint. Especially #3. After watching the TV series, I was wondering about this, too. Suicide is closer than we think.
Thanks for your thoughts!
Hey no problem!
I really like your reasons why. So refreshing to speak the truth.
My favourite reasons are your 7 and 8. 😊.
I haven’t read the book or seen the program.
Excellent reasons NOT to watch it! I’m afraid the program may push some vulnerable people over the edge…which is not a good trend. But now I’m curious about the book!
The book was well-done–I’d certainly recommend it!!
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